There are many things I’ve discovered in my 40 years of life on this Earth. Some of them have proven to be true. Others, not so much. For example, the statement that “everything happens for a reason” is a lovely platitude that I used to recite to myself whenever some things just didn’t go my way. But, I call bullshit on “everything happens for a reason”. This phrase is meant to excuse away things that do not go as planned. Do things actually all have a reason for occurring? Yes, they do. At least, according to physics.
But, when people use this phrase to say “something or someone f*cked up my plans, so there must be something greater behind it”. Well, that’s just plain ol’ crap. Physics aside, some things just happen because life can be shitty and people can be shitty. People will die on you or move away or stop talking to you. Is that because of some grand plan? Nope. It’s just the way life is.
Another thing I’ve learned about life in the past 40 years is that there IS a holy trinity. There are three things that are absolutely necessary to live a fulfilling life, however, the difficulty comes in having those three things together at the same time. That, my friends, is the crux of the issue. And these three elusive things, I have found, very rarely are able to co-exist in time together. You either get one, but not the others. Or you may get lucky enough to have two, but then one just slips away from you. You’re probably wondering what those three things are? Well, they are…..
Yes, folks, the holy trinity is made up of LOVE, HEALTH, and WEALTH. I suppose you could say that these things combined make up what we love to call the “American Dream”, however, I think that these three things are what everyone is attempting to capture and hang on to.
So, what is LOVE? When I’m talking about love, I’m talking about a relationship with another person. A significant other. Yes, there is love that you have for your children, or your pets, or your extended family. But, that’s not what I mean. I’m talking about that meaningful relationship you spend your entire life trying to find; the pursuit of another person that will put up with your quirks, your bullshit, your good days and your bad days. Now, I’m sure not everyone feels the need to have love in their lives – at least, not in the form of another person – but, best believe that the idea of love is still prominent in their lives. Maybe they really love money and the love of money, along with the money itself, make up two of the sides of the trinity. Either way, love is definitely a player in this holy trinity.
HEALTH. This is a big one. I’m talking about being sound of mind, body, and spirit. If you have a toothache, you get it fixed. But, at the end of the day, there is nothing that is going to immediately kill you and you are, overall, healthy. Not everyone has this luxury. Some people suffer from silent illnesses, such as mental illness. They appear to be sound on the outside, yet you have no idea of the amount of agony they are suffering on the inside. Or, someone who suffers from diseases such as cancer or celiac disease. They seem okay, as the problem is on the inside of their bodies, but they do not have true health.
WEALTH. Now, I’m not talking about winning the lottery here. I’m not even talking about being middle class. I’m talking about having enough money to pay your bills, put food on the table, and a roof over your head. That’s it. Just enough to cover the basics. This, I consider wealth. If you can sleep at night, knowing that you’ve got the basics covered, then you are better off than many people in this world.
These three things are the cornerstone to a fulfilling, happy life. Here, however, is what I have found. It is damn near impossible to have all three of these things at once in life. You may find “the one” that you are meant to be with, and then BAM! you lose your job. Or, you are feeling great and healthy, your relationship with your significant other is stable, and you love your job, when BOOM! you get a pain in your side, and after visiting the doctor, you discover you need surgery, which then has you missing work for months on end. These things happen, folks. I know they’ve happened to me.
I also like to call it the “other shoe” problem. Although, I think Charlie Brown said it best:
Tell me your stories of your “holy trinity”. Have you managed to obtain this elusive triad and not lose it?